Coaching Call Q&A: On Healing, Genius, Systems, and Working Less
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Every month in Say Yes to Desire, we get on a call and let the conversation go wherever it needs to go. Here are some of the questions that came up on our April2026 call — and the answers that came through.
Q: You mentioned using Claude AI and Notion together in a really practical way — what does that actually look like?
After returning from French pharmacies with a bag full of new skincare, I wanted to make sure I used everything correctly. So I photographed everything, uploaded the images to Claude, and asked it to automatically populate my Notion skincare database — product by product, with how-to instructions. Then I had Claude turn that database into three printables: morning, evening, and occasional use. I stuck them on my bathroom wall. I’m loving how Notion and Claude communicate together.
Q: You shared a story about a dismissive doctor while pursuing your ADHD diagnosis. How did you stay grounded?
The appointment was awful — the doctor was dismissive and patronizing. But I pushed back calmly, told him he wasn't the right doctor for me, and left. I later learned what I'd done intuitively is actually a trauma-informed technique: before entering a triggering situation, you mentally tell your inner child to wait outside. You walk in as your adult self, handle it, and come back for her. However, I didn’t let the appointment discourage me. I reached out to a community of fellow moms for personal recommendations which led to helpful connections I may not have made otherwise.
Q: Can you explain what "allowing" means for the nervous system — and why suppression makes things worse?
I’m not a nervous system expert but I can pass along what I’ve learned from people like Sam Miller and Patrick Teahan. When you suppress a difficult emotion, you don't make it disappear — you press pause on something your body was in the middle of processing. The body keeps waiting to finish. Over time, that becomes a backlog. The work is to do the opposite: let whatever is coming up, come up. If it's surfacing, it's because it's finally safe to. Your nervous system knows you're an adult now. It has to come up to come out.
Q: Where does the two-hour workday idea actually come from?
It started as a filter, not a fact. When I asked myself what would it look like to only need two hours a day?, my brain started solving for that instead of defaulting to more, more, more. And when I looked back honestly, every time I worked really hard there was always an easier path nearby — I just couldn't see it. I was in survival mode. We were taught that money has to be earned through suffering. Letting go of that script is layer after layer of inner work, but the easier path was always there.
Q: Why do some women resist setting up systems?
When I dug into my own resistance, I found something unexpected: I had an attachment to dysfunction. I kept a little chaos around because in my childhood, my ability to tolerate dysfunction was how I stayed “safe”. So I subconsciously recreated what felt familiar.
“Our nervous system tends to choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven.”
So if you feel inexplicably resistant to systems, it’s not laziness or a discipline problem. It may be a little girl inside, coping the only way she knows how. Fully embracing systems sometimes means sitting with her first, and letting her know: you're an adult woman now, you have her back, and she doesn't have to hold all of that anymore. The chaos was never the safe place. You are.
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