Stop Working Harder. Start Shifting Your Identity.
What hyper focus actually looks like when you work with it
I've known my brain does this for a long time — locks in, goes hard, barely surfaces for air. Now I know it's called hyper focus, and knowing that changed everything. Because wielded intentionally, it's a superpower. But if you go in blind, you will forget you have a body. You'll forget to eat, move, look at the sun.
So I structured for it and supported myself with systems. I gave myself the whole month of May. And I still walked twice a day, made art, ate well, kept my life. I worked more than usual — but not at the expense of my health.
The seasons aren't metaphor — they're a map
What I moved through this past month was spring into summer. Spring is the ideas, the building, the seeds going into the ground. Summer is getting it live, published, out the door. And now I'm wrapping up summer and moving into autumn — more talking, more teaching, more showing up for people who have no idea who I am yet.
The thing is, you have to actually move through the seasons. Staying too long in any one of them turns magic into stagnation. If I'd stayed in spring — building forever, never launching — the ideas would have started feeling heavy instead of exciting. Your body will tell you when it's time to shift. That restless, something's-off feeling? That's the cue.
Where people get stuck in the transition
It's not the new season itself that's hard. It's the momentum gap — the moment when the thing that was working stops working and you haven't picked up speed in the next thing yet. We cling to the old groove because it's familiar, and we mistake that clinging for discipline.
But what's actually happening is an identity shift. Moving from summer to autumn, for me, means stepping out from talking only to the people who already love my work and walking into rooms full of people who've never heard of me. That requires a different version of me to show up. Not a harder-working version — a more expanded version.
The simple questions that opens the portal to your identity shift
If you're feeling stuck and wondering how to shift — how to actually become the next version of yourself — I'll give you the only question that has always worked for me: what are you avoiding?
Not what should you be doing more of. Not where do you need to work harder. What are you not looking at? What are you pretending isn't there?
Because the most authentic version of you lives on the other side of that resistance. Make the list of everything you're avoiding. That list is your real to-do list. Get to work on it and things will move faster than you can imagine.
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